We spend our whole lives trying to live up to standards. Whether that standard is to get an A on a test or fail at the sport you’ve tried so hard to be good at. We never fully break free from these standards. We always feel the need to be better, to not rewrite the same mistakes. By default, we don’t even realize we already are doing just that. We worry too much; this makes us prone to repeat what we don’t want to. It’s like losing the TV remote. You’re so stressed trying to find it, you never will because your mind isn’t clear. If you sit down for 5 minutes and breathe, you might realize the TV remote was on the couch the whole time. Life can be like a never-ending cycle of depression and anger issues. Until you open your brain valve and mind, then let it out, breathe, do something to fill your cup, get a coffee, get your nails done, go on a run, get a new hobby, read a book, do some work, distract yourself so you don’t repeat. Distract so you don’t REPEAT. DISTRACT so you don’t repeat.
You can’t fail if you change your mindset. Learn from the mistake and add the curve to get away from it, treat it like your enemy. The mistakes are the enemy, so learn from them. Accept that you can make a mistake and use the curve. Find the mistake and use it as a way to learn from it, because you can. It’s a mindset, not a physical thing, like in lifting. If you tell yourself you can’t lift 100 pounds, you won’t be able to lift 100 pounds. But if you switch your mindset? You can do it. Is it mental if I say I can’t not eat junk food? I will never stop, but if I say, “Hey, I’m gonna give up these snacks but replace them with an alternative?” I absolutely can give up junk food. It’s strictly a mental thing, not a physical thing.
Healing is not linear, it never has been for anyone ever, but if you treat it like a mental priority healing can be the easiest thing you do, start new routines, go to therapy, find comfort things or people, you’ll never move on but you can grow and then that weight that once used to feel like 3000 pounds can turn into 5 as you grow. It never really goes away, but it does get smaller as you change. Never let it take over your life or even let it eventually end it; you never deserve to die on that hill where he is your mind’s priority, learn, grow, heal.
Change is what makes us grow, it makes us rethink, it makes us live life to the fullest, change is never linear, just like healing, some days you change and heal in little bits and on other days you change so much people cant even recognize your personality, change can be bad or good depending on how you change, but it’s always good to change for the better than to change for someone who doesn’t wish the best for you, you’ll never regret changing, but what you will regret is not changing, so change but make sure it’s for the right reasons. It’s always mental, never physical.
